The more love there is, the more leverage exists

When two people genuinely love each other, they don’t actually want to hurt the other person, nor do they want the relationship to end.

This means there is always capacity for robust conversations when one of you is unhappy.

Additionally, the more you love someone the more you are willing to do to remain close to them.

Therefore the more love, the more leverage you have to get very best out of each other.

Remember: ‘Don’t try and change the one you love’ is the single worst piece of relationship advice ever given. If you don’t bring some skill to the game and help each other do better, you’ll annoy the shit out of one another and the space between you will become permanently polluted.