Jaemin Frazer

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The Be Do Have model in action

I still remember the very first time I thought about being the best coach in Australia,

When I moved beyond feeling like a major wanker for even saying this aloud to myself, I realised that it was indeed what I wanted.

If this desire was pure and based on who I was meant to be then who would be served if I played it safe and small instead of going after this dream wholeheartedly.

It’s not like I wanted to play quarterback for the New England Patriots or beat Elliod Kipchoge at the marathon. What I wanted was to be excellent at the thing that is most aligned to how I’m wired and where I could add the most value.

Someone has to lead the way, why couldn’t it be me?

Once I’d examined my own motives for wanting this and dealt with all limiting beliefs that said I couldn’t have it, I firmly set my sights on living out this lofty goal.

I understood that the only path to success was to live BE DO HAVE.

Rather than living HAVE DO BE like the victim, constantly waiting for the right conditions and comparing myself to others: “When I HAVE enough experience, skill, support, opportunity, partnerships etc then I can DO all the things I need to, and then I’ll BE successful.”

Or living DO HAVE BE like the worker, always hustling, striving, forcing more and more each day: “It’s all about the hard work. The only think separating me from this goal is effort, energy, discipline, and hustling. The more I DO, the more success I’ll HAVE and then eventually if I DO and HAVE enough, I’ll finally BE successful.”

Instead, I followed the BE DO HAVE path of the winner: To begin with the end in mind and go ahead and BE this person I was aiming to become here and now already. Then Being the best coach in the country, do what the best coach in the country would DO, and then of course you will HAVE this reality as your lived experience.

From the moment I set my sights on this ambition, I talked to myself and about myself as though this was already true – before I had any right to. I got dressed in the morning like this was true, I ate my breakfast as though this was already true. I conducted every coaching session from the inward reality that this was already true.

This is not ‘fake it till you make it’….This is Stephen Covey’s universal law that everything is created twice.

The only reason Glen and others are saying this about me now is because I said this about myself first and then wholeheartedly aligned myself to this vision every day for the last 12 years.